I Changed Myself to Change My Life.
My Story
I grew up in Canada as a latch-key kid
to immigrant parents.
I played the piano, was an A+ student, and played the stereotype perfectly. From age 10, I raised myself with the $50 my dad gave me on the first of every month. I learned independence early on.
1998-2011
I was a United Nations Official
When you work in a diverse, politically-charged place, you learn a lot about people and influence. I was a bureaucratic samurai, and a people-pleasing expert that over-functioned my way up the career ladder.
2012
I quit
Golden handcuffs are hard to free yourself from, but the pain of coasting is intolerable. I quit without a plan and took some ‘time on’. I lived without a cell phone, and threw myself into the study of love, human potential, and spirituality.
2014
I became a full-time coach
I began coaching clients out of my New York City apartment. They came quickly by word-of-mouth and the UN was my first corporate client. The most fulfilling career changes don’t have you starting back at zero. They leverage your past experience.
2017
Best decision ever
Healthy happy love isn’t just about finding the right partner, it’s also about learning to be one. At 45, I married my best friend, role model, and resident Chief Technology Officer. Some say we met late in life. I know we were right on time.
2020
My COVID silver lining
We moved in with my parents to support them through the COVID lockdown. Being an Alzheimer’s caregiver has been my hardest role yet, but it has gifted me with new depths of compassion, forgiveness and acceptance.
Today
Helping you to be
the fullest expression of yourself
I'm learning all the time and really proud to be working alongside other like-hearted people who are serious about personal growth. I believe that we can all be of greater service in the world just by bringing more of ourselves into it.
You Are the Source
of Your Own Experience
If you’re feeling apathetic,
resentful or burned out,
you're giving away your power.
When we work together,
we’ll address:
- Figuring out what you actually want and need, not what’s socially compliant, impressive or ‘safe’
- Saying no to requests or invitations that aren’t in your interest, even (and especially) when it will inconvenience, disappoint or piss people off
- Asking and expecting more from others, giving them the chance to show up for you (or to finally find out that they won’t)
- Telling people when they’ve disrespected, disappointed, or hurt you because that’s how healthy trust and connection grows
- Speaking up more assertively when you know you have something to say, because it’s your responsibility to share your brilliant perspectives with the world
- Letting go of perfectionist thinking and allowing yourself to make wholly imperfect progress in pursuit of what you want
- Keeping your promises to yourself as the ultimate expression of self-love, worth and confidence
If any of this feels true to you,
it’s not your fault.
We don’t learn these skills in our families,
there’s no college degree, and most therapy isn’t sufficiently action-driven.
Can you relate?
Whether you’re taking on a new role, wanting to feel more confident, or under an unshakeable feeling that something’s not right, that things need to change…
I can guide you towards a more empowered sense of yourself — while staying in integrity with who you are.
Pulling Your Truth
Out of You
"Treena has this open mind and these Jedi moves to help you recognize emotional/relationship ruts— and how to work thru them head on….If you know that you’re letting your life continue on and you want to break out from what feels like the routine and pull out from within yourself something you *know* that’s there... that’s special, something more that you know you’re capable of, call Treena."
Brooke Baldwin,
Award-Winning Journalist & Author
Coaching with Me Focuses On…
#1
Upleveling
Your Identity
We generate from the identity we are centered in. Most high performers struggle with imposter syndrome because they haven’t resolved the outdated beliefs that they’re not good enough. I’ll coach you to expand your sense of self to be fuller, wholly deserving and more confident in your dreams and your worth.
#2
Holding Yourself Accountable
When we assume accountability for our thoughts, feelings and actions, we are not victimized. We are in our power to influence our experience and our outcomes. With curiosity, we can choose more true and empowering beliefs to expand our realm of possibilities. We prioritize our ‘why’ over the pull to stay comfortable.
#3
Expressing
Your Power
Expect more for yourself. If fear and uncertainty are holding you back, it’s an invitation to learn where your power is and to use it with more intention. I’ll coach you through the uncomfortable conversations, the bold asks and the courageous risks that will open you up to more fulfilling opportunities. And a lot more ease.
How are you inadvertently creating
what you don't actually want?
We’re a Great Fit If You Believe In…
Self-Accountability
We aren’t victims to the behavior of others, or to our circumstances. We are fiercely committed to our own ability to influence how we think, what we feel, and how we choose to act. We strive to have mastery of our inner lives — inquiring into our feelings, needs and beliefs in a way that moves us forward and up — and not just through.
Love (Over Fear)
We do our best to be kind in everything we do for ourselves, for each other and for the world. We know that boundaries are points of connection — not walls that keep others out. Even though it feels like the harder choice, we try hard not to avoid what scares us. We choose instead to believe in our goodness and our ability to connect with the goodness in others.
Growth
We get restless when we know we can do, and be better. Our indicators of success are not the external rewards, but the peace we feel from being aligned with our own integrity. We intentionally choose to take on uncomfortable things because we know that’s the only way to keep growing towards the fullest expression of ourselves.
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